When God Didn't Author the Covenant: Understanding Spiritual Alignment in Marriage

Introduction

For many believers, marriage is taught as a single, rigid category:
“Every marriage is God-ordained… and every divorce is disobedience.”

But is that actually what Scripture teaches?
Or have we inherited cultural interpretations that never came from God in the first place?

Today, God dropped a revelation into my spirit—one that brings clarity, alignment, and freedom to countless believers who feel trapped in confusion, condemnation, or spiritual warfare inside a marriage God never authored.

Let’s walk through it.

1. We Accept That Not Every Decision We Make Comes From God

Every believer agrees with the reality of free will.
We can:

• choose careers God didn’t send,
  

• enter friendships He didn’t approve,
  

• pursue plans He didn’t lead us into,
  

• make financial and emotional decisions He never authored…

…and when we do, we reap consequences not because God abandoned us, but because WE acted without alignment.

We all understand this.

Except when it comes to marriage.

2. Why Do We Treat Marriage Like the One Area Where We Can’t Possibly Miss God?

It’s inconsistent.

If we can:

• take the wrong job,
  

• partner with the wrong person in business,
  

• attach ourselves to the wrong environments,
  

• pursue the wrong goals…

…why would marriage be the ONLY place where we are somehow incapable of choosing wrong?

Marriage is not immune to misalignment.

And Jesus Himself hints at this with surgical clarity.

3. “What God Has Joined…” Means Some Unions Were NOT Joined by Him

Jesus does not say:

“What marriage has joined…”
or
“What vows have joined…”

He says:

“What GOD has joined together…”

This distinction matters.

Because if every marriage on earth were authored by God,
Jesus’ qualification would be unnecessary.

He is highlighting that God’s involvement in covenant matters.

Which means:

Some unions were formed by emotion, fear, trauma, lust, pressure, rebellion, or deception...

not the Holy Spirit.

4. If God Didn’t Author It, He’s Not Obligated to Sustain It

This is the breakthrough.

The same God who intervenes in:

• toxic friendships,

• broken partnerships,
  

• misaligned paths,
  

• and harmful environments…

…will absolutely intervene in a covenant that was never His design in the first place.

God is consistent.

If He corrects your life everywhere else,

why would He remain silent in the one place that shapes destiny the MOST?

5. Many Marriages Begin in Misalignment—Long Before the Wedding

This generation begins romantic life with a blueprint the enemy loves:

• premature attachment
  

• fornication
  

• emotional dependency
  

• lust
  

• abandonment wounds
  

• childhood patterns
  

• codependency
  

• ungodly soul ties
  

• unhealed pasts
  

• false peace and counterfeit “chemistry”
  

• confusion that feels like connection

• rebound energy

Then people wonder why the covenant produced spiritual warfare instead of fruit.

The foundation was sand from day one.

God didn’t author the dysfunction...

He is delivering you from it.

6. God’s Heart Is NOT to Bind You to What He Never Ordained

Some believers genuinely think:

“If I married them, God must want me to remain forever.”

But here’s the truth:

God never commands you to cling to bondage.
He calls you into alignment.

God blesses what He joins... not what we force, fabricate, or enter in disobedience.

Every believer must ask:

• Did God lead me into this?

• Or did life, loneliness, lust, fear, pressure, or brokenness lead me?

• Did the Holy Spirit confirm this union—or did I silence Him?

• Was I aligned with God when I said “yes,” or was I spiritually blind?

These questions are not condemnation...

They are liberation.

7. Discernment Is the Key We Were Never Taught to Use

Many believers only know what their church culture taught them...
not what Scripture actually reveals.

They inherited: “Marriage is marriage, period. Stay no matter what.”

But in the same breath, those same believers acknowledge that:

• not every choice is holy,
  

• not every relationship is fruitful,
  

• not every partnership is God-sent,
  

• not every bond is covenantal,
  

• not every connection is spiritual.

So why would marriage—the MOST spiritually binding relationship—be excluded from the category of decisions we can get wrong?

God didn’t exempt marriage from discernment.

Some of the deepest deliverances God performs…

are releasing believers from covenants He never authored.

Conclusion: God Delivers Us From What He Did Not Design

If you’re reading this and something is stirring inside you,
you are not alone.

So many are wrestling with:

• confusion
  

• shame
  

• fear of disappointing God
  

• spiritual warfare inside the home
  

• the pressure to remain in something God never blessed

Hear this clearly:

God is not the author of confusion.
God is not the author of torment.
God is not the author of destruction.
God is not the author of bondage.
And God is not the author of every marriage.

But He is the God who rescues, realigns, restores, and redeems.

Sometimes deliverance looks like God ending what He never ordained.